By Matt Chang

Newlywed advice for the newly wed bride. Now that the wedding day is behind you, the realities of life start to kick in. As every day life comes into play, and sometimes the difficulties and challenges start to come up.

First things first, and this is going to sound selfish, you need to put your self first. That really is the best way to start balance. If you don”t put your self first, you will never be in the position to be a part of any other relationships. Think of you as a foundation, and with out a solid foundation, you really don”t have anything to stand on. That’’s the best way to balance family and work. And that means putting yourself first. Bet you didn”t expect to hear that!

Take care of yourself so that you can be a good partner. With this finally being said, you put your relationship second. This may seem odd, and you may have the inclination to want to put all this energy in to the new one. Don”t mistake that you must put alot of work and effort into that new relationship, but you need to realize that we are talking about worse case senario.

Now that we are on the same page, here are some tips to help you keep your relationship healthy with your spouse.

Notice where you”re uncomfortable, and allow yourself the discomfort. You need to be able to alos communicate your feelings with our spouse. If your marriage isn”t strong everything else falls apart. Having challenges will be a part of your new life, and you need to identify with that, but put the right mechanisms in place to deal with them.

Don”t let in-laws get between you and your new bride or groom. They mean well, but at the end of the day, it is you and your spouse. Remember, you are their child, but your marriage is hands off!

Work on compromises when he has to work late or she has to work late. Equality does not exist, but deal making and compromising and keeping priorities straight does. Remember sharing in the burden doesn”t mean things have to be 50/50. Sometimes it may need to be 60/40. Understanding is very important.

If you bring children to the marriage, they will have to adjust to the fact that you are putting their new step parent ahead of them. This is a huge transition for blended families. Don”t expect to look like the Brady Bunch the first year or even the second or the third year. Blending takes time, but if you keep these priorities straight, you”ll do fine.

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